Scaling and telling yourself how good you are ...
A four years old boy in my class knows all about it!
Little Ben made a scene out of almost every accident in class.
Even the tiny ones.
He could scream really loud and every time I was shocked.
I've tried to explain that in time I wouldn't be shocked anymore
even when the accident would be a REALLY hurtful one ...
Hmm, it didn't work.
Benjamin kept on making scenes out of nothing.
How could I help him?
One day I overheard a friend mentioning Benjamin had been crying during reces.
I found myself kneeling down while asking him:
"I've heard you've been crying ..."
"How much did you cry?
To give him a good impression I spread my arms and hands wide open.
"Or this much?" While saying that my arms where far more close together.
He looked at me for an instant and put his hands a little bit apart from each other.
I hear him say straight away:
"A tiny bit. Ain't that good?"
He looked at me to get confirmation.
I looked at him with big eyes full of admiration: "Wow, that's a real tiny bit. Yes, that's VERY good!"
I wanted to be sure whether it really felt good for him.
He had made a huge step all by himself.
For me he was allowed to be a little in 'shock' :-)
So, I hear myself asking with a soft warm voice
"Was it enough?" I asked.
I waited for his reaction.
Within seconds we both were nodding.
Yes, it was enough.
We were both so happy and proud!
While preparing to give a training course, I will certainly use this case example.
Thank you Benjamin!